When entering a relationship, no one hopes that they’ll break up in future. Everyone has high expectations that their relationship with their long distance lover will last a lifetime. However, just like normal relationships, the love you share in a long distance relationship is not bound to last forever, and there comes a time when you have to break up. Breaking up with your long distance lover comes with the agony of heartbreak, but there’s a way you can ease the pain and suffering for them by being honest about what you feel.
Here are ways on how to end a long distance relationship:
- Let them know what you feel
It’s very unfair to break up with someone before talking about the things that are bothering you in the relationship. It’s important to let your lover know how you feel and the things that are stressing you. Depending on the efforts both of you put to it, the relationship might work out. However, if your partner doesn’t make any efforts even after talking to them, then you are justified to break up with them.
- Do it at the right time
Breaking up is not an easy thing, and it’s very unreasonable of you to break up with someone before assessing their current situation. For instance, it’s not appropriate to break up with someone when they are grieving or before they start their exams.
- Let them know you haven’t been unfaithful all along
The first thing that comes to the mind of your long distance lover when you mention a break up to them is that all along you’ve been cheating on them. To ease the frustration of the break-up, ensure that you let them know that you are not seeing anyone else rather you feel that the relationship is not heading in the right direction.
- Don’t try to make work things out
If you’ve already made up your mind and want to end the relationship, don’t expect your partner to understand your position. They might still have feelings for you so the conservation might end with name calling and blame games. If it gets to that, you should remain calm and avoid name calling or blame games.
- Cut communication
One of the things you should avoid after a break up is staying in touch with your partner. Staying in touch with them gives you false hopes of getting back with them, and it’s a sign that you’re still thinking about them. Lastly, avoid cutting contact suddenly, instead do it gradually, and with time the emotions will slowly fade away.